My Parents never treated me right

I cried many times while hiding in my bed, and once while doing a chore because I couldn’t hold it anymore (I was around 23 years old). That was the first time my parents saw me cried because of emotional, not physical pain. Tears were really pouring out and I saw my father’s face with guilt. It is not a practice in our family that people talk seriously about our own feelings, we either fight or make jokes about it. So instead of them talking to me, they just stayed silent because they didn’t know what to say. This incident didn’t make that much of a change when it comes to household chores and all, but at least after that, it is noticeable that my parents started to give some consideration to what I have to say.

To cope with my feelings or to avoid depression and madness, I just thought of other children who are less fortunate than me. At least I had food, shelter, clothing and education. I stopped caring about what my parents feel about me as compared to my sibling. I told myself that I am just their child and have no right to demand more than what they are supposed to provide. I also changed my perception from “why do I always have to do most of the work” into “at least some of the work, no matter how few are being done by my sibling”, because I could have been an only child and ended up doing all the chores no matter.

Parents will always have their favorite even they won’t admit it. Just accept the fact and lower your expectation from them to avoid being hurt. Focus on yourself and stop comparing with your twin. Be grateful of what you have before it is too late.

Things that went wrong with me

• For them I was always a financial source of income to get their demands fulfilled
• Getting a costly phone or buying an AC for them was my responsibility
• My mother was manipulating in that better way that she started tonting me everyday. Everyday we had a fight and eventually I got blood pressure which family don't know
• What people will say was always important for them rather than listening to me
• Never supported my love and always in fake ego of casteism ,socialism .
• Knowing that I got promotion in my job also increased their demands
• Never asked me how I was doing with my health in my sick time.
• After doing all this they keep telling people that their children are not supporting them
• Never listen to my points whenever I want to keep my points in front of them
• My Parents are worlds biggest liar who cant even tell truth to their children's and can swore on their children's for wrong things
• Always tortured and emotionally blackmailing me that they will die if I do this or that
• Always used my weakness as their strength and always try to manipulate my mind

Small piece of advice. Treat them as you treat other human around you.No hate, no love, just casual as you are with others.

Parents are just human as others, don't make them god just because they have given you birth( birth of child is parent’s wish, never child’s).Don’t waste your energy on them, focus on your upcoming life. Use your energy on your growth & present, not on past what your parents had done with you as it’s only going to give you pain